10 Tips on How to Live with a Vegan?



With Veganism on the rise, it is very possible you might date or live with a vegan and you need to be fully prepared. Here are 10 tips on how to live with a vegan successfully.

These tips help you gauge just how much of a vegan the vegan you are living with really is. It will help you gain insight into what vegans really think in our heads. No hard feelings.

1. No Mixing!

OK hard core vegans don’t even want to smell any animal flesh cooking let alone eating from the same pot it was cooked in. In other words, if you make a chicken gravy, don’t think you can just carefully take out the gravy with no animal flesh and serve this to a vegan. You’re more than likely going to get a very crazy look on the face of the vegan if you even attempt to pull this off. It’s gonna have to be 2 separate pots and 2 separate cooking utensils if you’re cooking for a vegan. Sorry!

2. All vegetables are not equal

Ask a vegan which vegetables they like and don’t like. Don’t assume that just because they are vegan, they eat all vegetables. Some animal flesh eaters don’t eat red meat. Others don’t eat fish. Others don’t eat chicken. Well, same with those vegans. We don’t all like broccoli, or carrots or beetroot. The vegetable family is the largest family of food on the planet.

3. Vegans can eat Potatoes

Someone once asked me: Can you eat Potatoes as a vegan? OK people let’s get real here. A vegan does not consume products derived from animals. That’s it. Anything else is game. Spoiler Alert: Potatoes are NOT derived from animals. Potatoes grow in the ground. Yes, a vegan can eat potatoes!!!! However, a vegan may choose NOT to eat a potato, but that has nothing to do with being a vegan. I do think the term “vegan” is confusing to many though. We are the real vegetarians and I have often felt vegans should be called vegetarians.

4. Don’t treat them as aliens

Vegans are an increasing minority on the planet. There is nothing abnormal about their diet. Everything a vegan can eat and eats, an animal flesh eater can eat and eat as well. Vegans do NOT come from another planet, even though many of us feel like that from time to time. Most land animals are Herbivores. What we eat grows on the planet Earth NOT Mars or Jupiter. We are an unyielding, unfolding and unapologetic part of the human family. You’re stuck with us.

5. Never challenge a vegan to a healthy diet debate!

You will lose!

6. Watch what non-food things you might buy a vegan

If buying a vegan a gift, try to avoid gifts made with Leather or Silk or Fur. A Leather Jacket as a gift to a vegan would be considered poor taste and certainly unappreciated. You’d be wasting your money because it won’t ever be worn. Vegans are really concerned about the environmental impact of the food they eat and the things they wear as well. If you feel this is just too much to be concerned about then I suggest you refrain from buying a vegan anything except Kale.

7. No babysitting and hand holding when dining out

You invite a vegan to a restaurant where there is no vegan or vegetarian options. It may appear that they need your help in ordering off the menu but some vegans have been known to read and write. Even at such a hostile turf, a vegan will still know how to ask for what they know they want more than you can ever possibly know how to. You trying to decide what a vegan wants, is like a vegan trying to decide whether you should have fish, chicken or beef on your behalf. Absurd!

8. Vegans don’t care that animal flesh tastes soooo good!

Yes we have heard this when animal flesh eaters say, “But meat tastes so good, you don’t know what you’re missing”. This is their only way of justifying their habit (and the protein thing too). Hear this: Vegans don’t make their food choice based on “taste”. We make choices on what is good or healthy for us and for mankind and for the planet. We also make food choices based on what’s good for the planet in generations to come. Taste is important but it is by far the least important as far as vegans are concerned. We won’t be intimidated by such outbursts! Maybe humans would taste good if they were killed, cut up, and cooked but it doesn’t mean we should engage in this activity.

9. Don’t ask: where do you get your Protein?

This is the number one question all vegans are asked 144 times a day! No vegan can answer this question politely with a smile after being asked this 100,000 times previously. My response however, when the protein-conscious healthy animal flesh eater asks this is: What is Protein? This response will abruptly end their inquiry and a peaceful meal can then ensue… until another question comes to their mind. This leads to the last tip.

10. Let’s All Eat in Peace…

Vegans are respectful at the dinner table. We never bring up the food choices of others at the table. We never question what others eat so why do people always have to bring this up to us. Why are you a vegan? and all the other food questions we get that we have to answer instead of just enjoying our f***ing meal! Let’s all eat in peace please!


These tips will greatly help you out if you are living with a vegan (or dating). Don’t feel bad. Just don’t be too inquisitive and ask too many questions and, most importantly let’s live in Peace. Let’s respect each other’s food choices.

If any other vegans, or people with experience with vegans have any other tips I would love to hear them. Please leave a comment below.

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24 Replies to “10 Tips on How to Live with a Vegan?”

  1. Vicki says:

    Great post! I have been a vegetarian since I was 13 yrs old (I am now 35!) and I had to argue my case so many times. I hated the smell and taste/texture of meat from such a young age and I just knew I would stop eating it as soon as my parents allowed. I loved animals and did not want any being killed to eat if there were alternatives. I really admire vegans. Not only have they gone that step further with there beliefs but they are counteracting all the damage done to our planet from big meat eaters. Cows produce so much methane they are one of the biggest sources of CO2 gas and if everyone went meat free for one or two days a week, we could reduce CO2 levels drastically. I have stopped eating eggs and milk and I have not bought anything made of leather for a few years now. We could all do our bit 🙂 Vegans should be celebrated for their dedication.

    • Dwyan Alford says:

      Vicki I could not have said this any better myself. All your points are spot on. Sounds like you should be celebrated as well. Thanks so much and all the best to you.

  2. Matthew Owen says:

    Many of my friends are vegan but I have never really dined out with them or even cooked for them if I’m honest.
    I personally couldn’t do it but I certainly see some benefits from it like the not drinking cow’s milk as it’s what makes a calf grow into a huge cow so god knows what it does to us humans.
    I might try a week or 2 as a vegan to see if my body will feel better than it does now.
    When you decided to go vegan how long did it take for your body to get used to a different diet?

    • Dwyan Alford says:

      Hi Matthew. I started my vegan transition very slowly. First red meat, then chicken, then fish, then dairy went last over a 3-4 year period. I think it best to go slowly. A good thing to do is to get blood work done by your doctor before you change your diet, then go on a vegan diet for 14 days, then visit your doctor again. This is a good way to really see how effective it is. Yes just 14 days. The mind can only be convinced with hard evidence. Thanks for your comment.

    • Vicki says:

      Not to mention what happens in the Dairy industry to the poor male calves. They are of no use and so are usually killed straight away. So sad!

  3. Aria Len says:

    WOW! I’m not sure I could live with a vegan, lol. I love your tone and this was VERY informative! What’s the difference between a vegetarian and vegan, though? I’m still a bit confused on that subject. The details are completely new to me even though I’ve heard the terms before.

    • Dwyan Alford says:

      Thanks Aria for your comment. Please see some of my other posts for more clarification and insight on the questions you raised. I am planning an article on the difference between vegans and vegetarians soon!

  4. Judy Edwards says:

    Rasdusa, I found your article to be informative and thought provoking. I am guilty myself of asking some of those questions of vegans. Your post is really about good manners toward those who have chosen a vegan lifestyle and you have pointed that out very clearly.
    I was running a lodge a few years ago and had a request for a vegan wedding. They wanted all the food to be vegan and the wedding was to start at sunrise. I felt this was selfish on their part but it was their wedding so I went along with it.
    I am especially curious to know things like “why they don’t wear wool, after all you need a haircut now and then, what are we supposed to do with the sheeps wool if we don’t use it after cutting it.
    The same with milk , eggs and honey. A dairy cow produces far too much milk for just her calf , and it is good for her to have the excess removed from her udder. The cows are always eager to come in and be milked, they will walk to the dairy shed on their own when their udder becomes too heavy.
    The meat part of a vegan diet I can fully understand but the refusal for some other animal products seems absurd when I am sure it brings pleasure to the animal to have a heavy wool coat removed before the hot Summer or to have the excess weight of an udder full of milk lightened off.
    Back in the old testament God promised the Isralites a land flowing with milk and honey so He obviously sanctions their consumption.
    In the New Testament it says it is not what goes into the mouth but what comes out that is more important and we are not to be concerned over what people eat or don’t eat.
    You are right in laying out some basic good manners towards those who choose for whatever reason to adopt a vegan diet.
    Vegans need to be gracious too because they don’t wear a label saying I am a vegan, they could politely and graciously accept a gift or gesture and pass it on to someone who will appreciate it.
    Really its all about accepting each other and trying to understand each other without being condemning either way.
    Thank you for raising the points you did as I know many of us will be guilty of not showing the respect we ought to our vegan friends.

    • Dwyan Alford says:

      Hi Judy, thanks for your thoughtful comment and the points you raised. Yes this article was for accepting each other, but accepting vegans in particular who always have to be questioned as if they are engaging in something bad or harmful to themselves. Most vegans were not born vegans so i feel we are very tolerant and understanding of non-vegans. I would say to you that we must make our food choices based on science and the effect our choices have on the environment and NOT on religious dogma, custom and taste. What we put into our mouths effects what comes out of it. We have very severe chronic diseases like High blood Pressure, Hypertension, Cancer, Diabetes, Obesity etc. Science has shown that a healthy diet can prevent and reverse these diseases. Please refer to my post as a starting point: Why become a vegan? Thanks again and God bless.

  5. sumit says:

    Great post on Vegan. It completely is normal to be a vegan and though I’m not a vegan i would love to be one.

  6. Ivan Brozincevic says:

    I am not a vegan or even a vegetarian, however, I enjoy, and I emphasize the word ENJOY, vegetables, nuts, seeds, fruits! I like the taste of the meat, as you have said, to justify my habit 🙂 Much respect to all people who are making their choice and turning vegan! Great article. Keep up the good work.

    All the best,

  7. Cris says:

    Wait a darn minute……so you’re telling me vegans are not aliens who have no clue where to get their protein???? You have got to be kidding me lol

    Seriously I hear so many myths about vegan living that it makes my head hurt and I’m not vegan. I can only imagine how annoying it must be to hear these things from human beings every day.

    I can understand the issues with getting gifts though so good advice there. People may only think about the consumption of animal products and not necessarily the other factors that come into play.

    • Dwyan Alford says:

      Hey Cris. LOL. Its annoying but we take it in strides. We have developed really thick skin! You are right to point out our lack of awareness of the other factors (the bigger picture) involved in the food choices we make. My mission is to articulate just how significant the bigger picture is. Thanks.

  8. Amy says:

    Great post and it brings up so many issues! You mean to say that potatoes are not animals…?!?! Seriously, everything here is so true, and issues I have encountered myself when out and about. One of your commenters above mentioned that dairy cows need to be milked because they produce too much milk. She needs to read up on this and perhaps understand that one of the reasons we choose to eat plant-strong is because the dairy industry engages in some pretty horrible methods of milking the cows. Does she know that they are milked constantly and given hormones to make them produce milk? Does she understand that they are constantly impregnated over and over again so that they continue to produce milk until they are exhausted? Their udders get so over-used and infected, that there is pus in the milk that is sold in the stores. It’s not all about a bucolic farm with a few dairy cows living the good life. Anyway, thanks for a great, eye-opening post!

    • Dwyan Alford says:

      Hi Amy. Thanks for your comment. You know that I agree with everything you say. It’s certainly an uphill battle as many are set in their ways and customs which are difficult to break. But this is the ultimate purpose of my blog — to break through.

  9. sarah says:

    This is such an amazing and informative post about being Vegan. I am not a vegan but a lot of my friends are, This post really helps me understanding about vegan. People usually think that being vegan is not a healthy option and for many people it is an alien concept but I am really glad that you shared this post with us, this will help people understand that being vegan is as normal as any other lifestyle. Thank you for sharing this post.

  10. hong says:

    I really liked your article. After going through your post, I don’t think I could live with a vegan, lol. My grandmother is vegan, she would stay with us every once in a while. It is hard to have her over to our house, she gets to rule everything. I used to think if someone is vegan, he or she must like all vegetables. I guess not. My grandmother is strictly vegan. She hates it or gets mad when someone cooks animal product in her pot. I can sort of understand that after I read your post. I love what you wrote in number 6. That is a great tip to keep in mind. I do have friends that are vegan. Now I have an idea on what to get them for gifts. Thank you for sharing. It was a great read.

    • Dwyan Alford says:

      Hi Hong thanks for your comment. I think I would love your grandmother!!! It’s unusual to find older people who are such hard core vegans in my experience. Really though we are not that difficult. All the best to you!

  11. Heidi says:

    I had a very good friend in college who was a vegan and after spending much time with her I really began to sympathise with her plight as far as having to explain her choices. I use to get mad for her as the 10th person that day asked what she can eat and suggested she’d be healthier if she got some protein!

    From experiencing first hand on her behalf I agree let’s all live in peace, stop questioning each other’s choices and offering unsolicited advice.

    Love the tone of your blog too, I think you would be the best at replying to those people with a little humour mixed in. Happy Veganing!

    • Dwyan Alford says:

      Thanks Heidi for your comment. Glad you were able to relate. I will take your advice. Take care.

  12. Thabo says:

    I am so loving the approach you came with here for a vegan diet. This information can help meat eaters understand many things in terms of their eating habits. I was also a vegan 2 years ago and I think it is the best option for many health reasons.

    I also can relate to all this information because I experience the exact scenarios when I converted to a vegan diet. The worst thing is that people think you are a disappointment if you do not eat meat and the like.

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